Do you ever have one of those days, or quite a few days, where something seemingly small (or not so small) just pushes you completely off kilter and all of a sudden you feel that scratching in the back of your throat, pain in your chest and pressure behind your eyes and the next thing you know you just have to let loose the floodgates and sob to your hearts content? Ever feel stupid for doing so or question why you’re even crying in the first place? If so, welcome to the club, membership is free.
Now before I begin the golden rule of the crying is okay club is to let go of the notion that crying is stupid and above all (and I’m going to use Caps to really make a point) TEARS ARE NOT WEAKNESS. Let’s ban that ugly stereotype right away.
So the past few months it’s fair to say have been tough. More than tough, they’ve been terrifying, actually, there were more than a few terrifying times last year too. And yet, for the most part, I’ve taken it as it comes and dealt with it, as it were. I think when you’re going through something that’s particularly tough you can become almost mechanical in some respects, you do what you have to do and don’t particularly give much thought to how it’s making you feel mentally or emotionally. Or have time to process any other issues that bother you at that time. You literally just go through the motions and can let certain things go over your head in order to cope. However, our minds, being the sponges that they are, soak it all in and say ” hey I’m going to remember this and probably remind you one night three months from now at 2 am when all you want to do is sleep. ”
And for a while, you think you’re okay, even tell yourself you’re one tough cookie. But then the cookie crumbles and something seemingly small can trigger a whole tidal wave of emotions. Where that sponge of a brain of yours decides to unleash all those memories and probably remind you of a whole back catalogue of every related memory/ incident all in one fell swoop. And you just have to let it out and sob until you can’t sob anymore.
And that’s okay! Cry it out.
For many, the definition of strength is not being weak or sensitive and that can be defined by never crying. Or being afraid to admit that every now and again you have a good cry. Because tears are seen as weakness and being seen as weak or vulnerable is a genuine fear of so many.
However, sometimes crying can be just what you need and sometimes crying even gives you strength. There is strength in allowing yourself to be vulnerable. See it as a way of lightening your burden that you’ve been carrying around for so long. See it as a way you can help identify your problems and help you to move forward. See it as the following quote suggests:
But whatever you do, do not berate yourself for it. Repeat after me: It’s okay to cry.
As one of my favourite quotes says “life is tough but so are you, my dear.”
On a side note, I’m going to take a little break from writing some of the more challenging mental health related posts for a little bit and focus on some nicer posts just while I take a little mental health check of my own. But as it’s mental health awareness do take a look at some of my older posts if you have not already done so. I have linked some mental health related ones below.
Take care everyone.