Following on from my post about Valentine’s day and how you should show the ones you love, no matter who they are, that you love them as often as possible not just on Valentine’s (if you’ve not read it you can do so here) I was all set to write a post about how you should also show yourself love too. However, some recent interactions have really made me want to blog about how important kindness can be out of pure gratitude and gratefulness to those that have shown me such kindness, especially of late.
In an age of social media and perhaps at times people oversharing it can feel as though we know exactly what is going on in people’s lives, however, the truth is that of course, we cannot know everything. There is always more going on behind the scenes, that people simply do not want or feel the need to share on social media. Sadly, even the person that seems so happy on the outside and like they do not have a care in the world can be in a whole world of pain on the inside.
For all of us, there are times when the world just does not seem to make sense whether that be for personal reasons or on a more global scale. We all have times when we feel stuck in a rut or feeling down in the dumps. But you know what really brings a silver lining to tough times? Kindness. Pure and simple kindness. There really are some wonderful people out there, some people are indeed more attuned to being kind and compassionate or more demonstrative in their actions and sometimes the irony is that those who give the most have the least to spare. However, the truth is that each and every one of us has the capacity to give and show kindness, which in turn has the power to completely transform someone’s day and remind them that there is still plenty of kindness in the world. Isn’t that such a wonderful thought?
Recently, whilst lying practically comatose in a waiting room a receptionist who was a complete stranger to me made the effort to come out to ask whether there was anything she could do for me, or whether I would like a drink. Something that seems so small and yet in that moment that small act of kindness meant so much to me. I very nearly started weeping, I was that touched. I think the fact that it came from a complete stranger too, made me feel even more comforted that there are good people in the world. And it definitely seemed more pertinent when the news is so full of hate lately.
Acts of kindness have spurred me on through so much and this blog post is dedicated to everyone that has shown me such kindness, especially at times of real struggle, to say a very big thank you. They say laughter is the best medicine and I won’t disagree with that (apart from if you have had surgery on your stomach, because ouch that hurts) however kindness is certainly great medicine too.
So treat others as you, yourself would wish to be treated. If you know a friend or family member is struggling reach out to them. Sometimes simply asking them how they are and that you are thinking of them can be the boost they need to see them through the day. Or ask whether there is anything that you can do, offer to help if you are in a position to do so. Most of all mean what you say because empty words or promises are not in the spirit of kindness.
Simply holding a door open for someone might have a big impact on their day, without you even realising. So in a world where you can be anything, be kind. It’s one of the most impactful and treasured things that you can do for a person. It doesn’t even have to cost you anything but it has significant value to the recipient.
Keep looking for those silver linings and throw kindness around like confetti. And don’t forget to be kind to yourself too.